I stumbled across this article, proclaiming that women should not be afraid to “date up.” The comments tell a different story, however, of women who have not been asked out on a date in many years. Anonymous writes:
Love the article. I guess the only frustrating aspect is the fact that there seem to be so few good, inspirational men out there. I know they exist (I’ve met them), but there are just so few of them…and so many good, single women…who haven’t had a date in years…
Another anonymous comment:
This is great and all, if men would actually ask women out on a dates. Haven’t been asked on a date in years. It’s really depressing. And I am tired of people asking why no one has “snatched me up.” Either I am that unattractive folks or men are that scared.
I would like to explain this phenomena. Here’s what happened.
Men in modern America have been rejected hundreds of times by women looking to “date up,” or waiting for “Mr Right.” The anonymous commenters may not have rejected many men, but it is a common trend among women.
An example: last week, I introduced myself to a female classmate who was sitting alone. She would not say what her name was, and didn’t want to collaborate on schoolwork.
You have no idea how incredibly painful it is to be completely rejected by a stranger until it happens to you. Based on my experiences as a single man, it is not surprising that American females laud Elsa, the ice queen who shuts others out, while her sister Anna is seen as a misguided sidekick for trusting men.
There are several stages of male response to this seemingly infinite rejection, ranging from denial and bargaining, to depression, and ultimately, acceptance.
What we are seeing now is greater numbers of young men than ever before entering the acceptance phase. They stop asking women out. They play video games, try for one night stands, or partake of other forms of temporary distraction. And for many men, rejection by women removes their desire to finish school or acquire a good job, since a part time salary will support a man living alone, as well as pay for many video games. There is no incentive to become an inspirational man when it is unlikely that you will ever find a woman willing to have a long lasting monogamous relationship (especially when 40% of marriages are ended unilaterally by women).
I, too, have accepted the state of the modern dating and marriage markets in America. I am done introducing myself to female classmates. Now if you will excuse me, I am going to finish my homework and play video games. And once I am ready, I will go overseas to look for women who do not reject men.